Who hasn't found themselves in a difficult relationship with someone they can't stop thinking about? Whether you're still with that person, or you have broken up and are trying to move forward, it can be difficult to function with daily activities when all you can do is think about him.
Who hasn't found themselves in a difficult relationship with someone they can't stop thinking about? Whether you're still with that person, or you have broken up and are trying to move forward, it can be difficult to function with daily activities when all you can do is think about him. We've all been there before. Fortunately there are several steps you can take in order to stop overanalyzing every phone call and bitter augment you've ever had with him, and start living your best life again.
Unplug and Disconnect
This is undeniably the most difficult part about being in a relationship in the modern age. We know everything that everyone is doing within seconds of it being plastered all over social media. It can be so tempting to constantly scroll through his social media accounts, but what good does this do? It only adds to you obsessively overanalyzing every post or comment he sends to every one of his friends. This does nothing but negatively affect the way you feel about yourself. Challenge yourself to unplug from social media for a week in order to decompress and rediscover what makes you happy.
Sign Up For New Experiences
Whether you're taking a break from your relationship or you've permanently broken up, distraction can sometimes be the best form of therapy. As much as you may want to stay in bed, force yourself to get up and get moving. Self-discovery is a powerful way to move on from obsessively thinking about what may have gone wrong in your relationship. Sign up for that scuba diving class you've always wanted to try, or buy tickets for you and your best friend to see your favorite band in concert. Replace all of your old memories with new ones and include your friends in your upcoming adventures. Not only will this help you stop thinking about him, but it will also strengthen your friendships with those who have always been there for you.
Maybe you haven't kept a journal since junior high, or perhaps you've never kept one at all. Journaling is one of the most powerfully cathartic activities you can do in order to decompress and heal from whatever may be bothering you. A great activity to try is to write one final letter to him in your journal. Unload all your feelings and say everything that's on your mind regarding your relationship and how it unfolded. After you've written the letter, simply crumble it up and throw it away. Writing a letter that's never meant to be sent can be that final act of closure you may have been seeking. Sometimes that closure is all you need to stop thinking about him and start moving on.
Reconnect With Nature
Sometimes we forget how much beauty the world holds when we are stuck in a bad situation with our partner or our ex. We sometimes feel as though the world is closing in, and they're the only one who matters to us. Learn to value your own self-worth, and take some time to reconnect with nature. Just being around natural surroundings and marveling in its vastness can be enough to remind you of all the possibilities that lay before you that don't have to include him. Take a walk in the park, or rent a cabin in the woods for a weekend getaway with a few friends. Let the healing power of nature heal your heart and help you forget all about him.
Consider Going to Counseling
Sometimes, we just need a little bit of extra help to get us past a difficult point in life. If you're finding it especially hard to get up in the morning and accomplish your daily tasks, you may want to consider scheduling an appointment with a counselor. A counselor can offer you an outsider's perspective of your relationship in order to help you see the issues within it. They can even help you get to the root cause of why you may find it difficult to stop thinking about him. Counselors can help us to gain valuable insight and develop coping strategies to reframe our train of thought and rediscover how wonderful life can be.